Yesterday, we went to IHOP for breakfast before we went grocery shopping. When the waitress brought our order, she included 2 little containers of jam – which came from Knotts Berry Farm.

I asked my DH if he had ever been there – since he was stationed in California a couple of times, and he said no.

Then I got to thinking about the last time I went there – and it was several years ago, when I was on a business trip. During that trip – in San Diego – I took the train to Belleflower – where I had been born, and where a dear friend of mine lived. Every time I would make a business trip to California – we would always plan on meeting – either in San Diego, or where she lived.

My dear friend – who I have know since high school, passed away last year from cancer. She just lay down on her bed, went to sleep, and never woke up. I would have loved to be there for the memorial service – but my husband had surgery scheduled, so it was not to be. Of course I was there in spirit and spoke with her husband – of many years – several times.

What does this have to do with Mend Your Fences?

Several years before this – my friend’s son, who is as old as my oldest (almost 40), decided that he would no longer have anything to do with his mother. Why? I’m not really sure of the details, but I know it has to do with his wife. My friend wanted to be friendly with her – but it was not to be – for whatever reason, and she never heard from her son again. Oh, she would write to tell him about his sister getting married, or other relatives and their occasions – but he never responded.

She wrote to him about her cancer – again no response and of course he was notified of her death – but nothing would change his mind.

What a loss – to have such a loving mom, and lose her – way before she lost her life to cancer.

Don’t let misunderstandings keep you from being in touch with friends and family members. Our time on this earth is too short – to let our fences be broken.

Take a moment today, to think of someone who you have not spoken with, for whatever reason – and let them know you are thinking of them.

Sandi